Self-Discovery

Erotic writing helps you understand and explore some of your sexual desires, in a way helping you articulate your own sexual desires, needs, and wants.  Giving you more confidence and assertiveness in your own sexual needs - essentially helping you formulate and express your almost unconscious desires.

Know What Makes You and Others Hot

You will also find yourself more in tune to not just your own desire after you begin writing erotic fiction but others, as if you have a new kind of power, as if you can detect sexual arousal and desire when you walk into a room.  This is because when you construct an erotic story you need to map out each characters emotions and wants.  Also, while you are creating an erotic story you'll see yourself having more empathy for others as you try to put the a story together, as if you are solving a puzzle that will turn someone on - you'll have to think from this other person's view - and look back at your own sexual experiences to find pieces that will make this story/puzzle a hot one.

Break It Down

Writing an erotic story can be difficult for some, often because our sexuality has been repressed and sex itself deemed a secret act rather than a fun and pleasurable experience.  As you write erotic fiction you'll find yourself more and more comfortable with sexuality in general and more open to talking about it with your friends or partner.

Everyone Can Do It

The sexually inexperienced can often write the most exciting erotica since their lack of experience gives them an enthusiasm and a strong curiosity.  Really, there is no limit to who is capable of writing good erotic fiction -- you just need to care about the characters you create and allow them to express themselves in all of their idiosyncratic ways.  This is the thing that often creates the most captivating stories, when a story breaks down your assumptions and you almost don't realize it - the quiet girl who is actually really experienced, or an older man who gives the impression of being a strong sexual person but is actually sexually inexperienced.  It is the unique qualities of the person, are they funny or witty or clumsy or what personality trait makes them stand out.  Also, often showing vulnerability and honesty is what works and a lot of this can come from your own struggles and difficulties in relationships.  We want to see not the typical girl with huge breasts and blonde hair straight out of Playboy, but maybe the smart lawyer who is stressed because she works all the time and has an encounter with the messenger boy.  Try to tell, through dialogue what these characters are feeling, what they are like, and what they want.

The Key

There are no tricks really to becoming good in any specific type of writing, whether erotic or science fiction or a novel - the two keys are reading and writing.  Reading good fiction to develop ideas and a style of writing and then practicing on a regular basis.  If you are turned on by a good story you will most likely want to write one of your own.  So start writing and build off of it.  Write letters to your lover for instance, sharing what you want them to do in bed or what you love that they do - with pen and paper you can get down more of your thoughts many times than having a conversation.  Once you get this stuff down on paper you will know what it is your really trying to say.

Memories and Imagination

Erotic writing makes you tap into your own memories as you look for that exact moment or thing someone did that turned you on and you want to recreate that in a piece of fiction.  It could have been something someone did for you to put you over the edge sexually or a series of things that made you want to have sex with this person.  Often, it seems that it is a small kind act that leads to feelings of love or arousal - when someone touches you sweetly but unexpectedly on the arm or remembers something you did or said.  These small moments build up to a kind of desire, maybe almost to an overwhelming state, where you want to kiss and caress this person and that can create a great story.  Do you remember your school days and what part of your lover's body put you over the edge - your favorite part of their body?  You can have characters interact and live our your fantasy - ending up in bed feeling and caressing that part that sends you over the top.

Also, there can be simple physical things that turn you on - the way they walk or slouch or laugh or someone looks at you - these are the things you want to try to add to your stories; together these characteristics lead to a sexiness that will turn your readers on.  Some of these things might not appear to be overtly sexual at first but as they add up they become much more - acting as a precursor to a sexual feeling.  As you begin to write your erotic stories you can combine these details and moments with other ideas that you have when you begin to picture what your characters are saying and doing in our stories.  Here is a quick example:

She walked down the hall with her ass pushed up in the air somewhat because she was wearing high heels, although with a tight pair of jeans and a loose fitting shirt.  She turned to go up the stairs just where I was headed.  As she was walking up the stairs one of her shoes slipped off.  "Oh, sorry,"  she said to me with a slight laugh since I was right behind her.  I wished I was a little closer I thought to myself, so I could have grabbed the shoe and handed it to her, but she was too quick and placed her shoe back on with a smile and turned towards her office.

Know Your Body

As you think back to your own memories and sexual experiences you will also become more aware of your body and how you are turned on.  When you then incorporate these moments into your stories they become real and enjoyable to read because you can tell that they are based on a life experience or drawn from your life experiences and not cookie cutter stories that are written in a template form - keep in mind there are still some good quick reads that are almost mocking these types of routine stories and somewhat ironic or exaggerated making them clever and funny.  Experimenting is always a good thing.  

However, the stories that are drawn from your own self-discoveries have a touch of worry, care, curiosity, insecurity, dealing with trust, and other elements that two characters try to work out in a story which make your fiction a more exciting read.  Of course, there are all kinds of stories - one's that are almost unimaginable can be given more realism with a few honest thoughts - when you meet someone in and elevator and immediately hit it off and act on it right there and then - these kind of fantasies are fun to read but need to have enough in them to seem feasible or true to pull the reader into the elevator with you or on top of you!

Team Work

You can also write an erotic story as a team - with your boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, husband, wife, or lover.  Trading sentences and trying to turn one another on with a creative idea or description and trying to out do (no pun intended) one another - competition does create intensity and that can be sexy.  Working together and crafting a story will no doubt turn you both on.

History

In a country built on Puritan ethics - sexual repression and often guilt have remained a constant standard.  Slowly these repressive thoughts are being pushed away and people feel more comfortable talking about sex and in this way writing sex stories.  Additionally, with new writer's and styles of writing giving a personal voice to the erotic writing genre the perception of erotica and sexuality in general as devious, or only the weird old men reading it, are disappearing. 

When we look back we can even laugh now at the strict rules of society and maybe our own prudishness or fear of sex.  This being mostly blamed on not knowing and having to find out on our own through friends rather than from our parents lets say.  Education only gives people more information so they can make better decisions, banning books or not talking about sex only hurts everyone in the end. 

There has been a long history of censorship and books being banned due to their ideas or sexual explicit content - and ironically these books became even more popular since they were banned.  Through the 50's with the Beat Generation and up through the 60's these barriers were broken down and the stigma removed, allowing erotica to move and become apart of all genres of writing.

Source:  Free Sex Story.org